Freemasons take a series of obligations that appeal to charity, relief, and support. We obligate ourselves, willfully, to care for our fellow Brothers, their families, but also to the world around us. In an era where the shadow of social discourse has cast shade on how we interact socially, in person, and online, Freemasons are charged to be compassionate and kind. We are expected to stand above the fray of extremism and partisanship as an example of being a well-mannered gentleman and citizen.
We say these words that bind us to serve others without expecting anything in return. Furthermore, these commands and obligations are always given with the caveat of our discretion. That point isn’t viewed as “an out.” The choice is prefaced by our ability to act. Sometimes life has a funny way of interfering, we have families, jobs, and other demands we must meet. I have found that the most significant challenge I’ve faced when considering reaching out to help someone is answering the “are they worthy” question.
When I asked my Masonic mentor why we were given room to make these decisions, what almost seemed like a loophole to me at the time, he explained that “as a Master Mason, you need to act as the Master of yourself first before you can help others.” At the time, his answer satisfied my query. Over time it has only opened a much larger internal discussion on the idea that we as Freemasons are charged to walk uprightly, be charitable and kind, but only to those we deem qualified to receive our aid or assistance.
But what does this mean? Anyone can choose to “do the right thing” and stop to help someone on the side of the road, volunteer for a cause, or throw a couple of bucks in a collection cup. What is the difference between giving and charity?